There’s a certain truth in that famous quote from the Dalai Lama. Sleep is good for us, it permits us to rest and recuperate. And, let’s face it, we all know what impact a disrupted night’s sleep has. If we’re had night where our thoughts are racing; where our system just won’t settle and where we’ve found ourselves woken; maybe once; maybe more times, or not able to get to sleep at all for that matter, then we know what effect it has. It’s not just feeling physically tired, but it’s the psychological impact too. Sleep disruption effects our attention, our working memory, our logical reasoning and executive functions. So lack of sleep or sleep disruption is not a good solid foundation for being productive, in whatever activity we want to undertake, be that solving the problem in the business or perhaps the unpaid bill at home; the project that we’re trying to complete or the relationship that might not be going so well. On top of that lack of sleep impacts our mood state, so we’re not only less flexible in our thinking but we may feel more irritable, sad or anxious. Finally lack of sleep also impairs our motor skills, which is part of the reason that driving while tired is such a bad idea. So when the Dalai Lama says sleep is the best, meditation, this starts to make an awful lot of sense even to those who don’t meditate. Getting restful sleep really can help us to be more flexible in our thinking, help us to manage our mood states and have those fine motor skills to hand. So when we think about operating heavy machinery whether that’s literal like driving a big piece of construction plant or more metaphorical like leading a diverse team through uncharted challenges, such as the ones facing business and teams in the wake of the Covid19 health crisis, restful sleep becomes an invaluable part of the induvial and the leader’s strategy. And that’s always easy to accomplish – remember just close your eyes and you sleep, That’s it….right? Well as I’ve talked about above its not that simple, our sleep can be disrupted from inside our own minds. Our restful few hours can be hijacked by thoughts of stress, worry or concern. Our mind isn’t doing anything unnatural here. In fact having these night-time thoughts and fears is perfectly normal and a by-product of how our thinking system operates. A number of studies have demonstrated the link between certain stages of human sleep and heightened amygdala function. The amygdala being the part of the rain closely correlated with emotions of fear and anger and the human stress response. Indeed it has been reported that amygdala activity during REM sleep can be as high as it would be when we are awake. Given that the part of brain which helps us to put things into perspective is not similarly active, does this mean that we have to accept these night-time hijacks and the impact that they’ll have on our thinking and mood states? You’ll be glad to hear that this doesn’t have to be case. We can build our skills to support our sleep cycle, just like we would with any other skill we develop. So here’s 5 tips to help you get better sleep Let’s start with simple behavioural aspects: • First think about temperature. We all know what it is like having the room too hot or too cold. How many of us have stuck our leg out the side of the covers only to wake with our toes like icicles later in the night, so find the right temperature • Get the room dark enough, that way we’ll limit the potential for our internal sleep hormones to pushed off balance • And linked to that consider limiting your device use close to bedtime. Our beloved devices emit a wavelength of light in the blue part of the light spectrum. This mimics sunlight and can interfere with melatonin (our sleep hormone) secretion. The next tip I have for you is to deal with anything occupying your mind. Think about it would the other party in the contract really want you to email them at 3am – probably not, so if there is something occupying your mind, get a notepad and write those thought down, including any worries or concerns you have around it. Then take a few minutes and reflect on what you’ve just written down. Getting those thoughts out of your head can have a cathartic impact on how we’re feeling and we can then use what we’ve written to identify the first thing we’ll do the following day (after our sleep ) to move the ,matter forward. Remember you don’t have to solve the entire issue in one fell swoop, just identify the first step you’ll take and then agree with yourself that you’ll activate this once you’ve slept. The final tip is a specific behavioural technique harnessing controlled breathing and progressive muscle relaxation that I use with clients. This can have the impact of de-escalating internal responses and calming the system down. It takes some time to run though, so we don’t have time for that here, but if you’d like to know more, then visit my website and check out the contact me section Using this approaches can help us to build skills around sleep, harnessing the restful and recuperative power. We’ll enhance our capability to think flexibly around the issues we’re faced with and be in a better position to deploy helpful and less elevated mood states – so in a sense, just like the Dalai Lama sleep may act like a form of meditation and our approach to what we face may be closer to where we’d like it to be. To hear a bit more why not listen to the podcast - link.chtbl.com/FstFwdTM - the fabulous Trish Keating of Tech Manchester recently recorded with me on the importance of sleep.

I find it fascinating when I hear people use very binary language; statements which are absolute in nature. Using words like always and never in our statements create an expectation of certainty. "We always do things a certain way" "We never speak to each other like that" These statements are fine in isolation but unfortunately they rely on our behaviour to carry them through. Human behaviour is dynamic and fluid and; therefore, subject to change based on how we are feeling ourselves; how we are feeling in given setting or subject to change based on circumstances which may influence our actions and reactions. In an organisational context we might think that we always do things in a certain way; but realistically matters outside of our control such as changes in finances or technology can change our approach, and equally so too might the fluctuations of our own internal emotional and psychological mindset. Some of the absolute statements I have heard over the years include things like: We don't do ego here; I've never read a book, and perhaps the most outlandish: I never make mistakes When I've heard these types of statements, the inquiring part of my thinking kicks into gear and I often ask myself why would someone make such a black and white statement; what meaning sits behind being so completely 100% about something. When I hear we don't do ego here, I wonder; has that person somehow managed to remove parts of their physical brain and psychological mind that relate to internal presentations of how we view the self and how we would outwardly wish to appear to others. Or is there perhaps another reason crystalised by Shakespeare's Hamlet; that this person " doth protest too much, methinks" When I hear "I've never read a book", my immediate thought is: Never? Really? Are you sure? Not even in school? And when I hear as I have done in more than one setting, that "I don't make mistakes", my mind similarly questions why such a statement would be made. Each one of us makes mistakes; whether those mistakes may be in our personal relationships, financial transactions, technically or professionally or even making predcitions about what we think will happen. Making mistakes is absolutely normal and a key part of our learning allows us to review what happened previously and to adapt our behaviour according to what didn't work out for us. I don't think I'm alone is my ears pricking up whenever I hear such absolute statements; am I? In fact our brain's in built threat detection system, with it's watchfulness, can allow us to pick up on the context of language and statements and raise our level of alertness when such absolute statements are made. We don't do ego here - Well let's wait and see about that. Indeed all of the above statements set immediate alarm bells ringing in the limbic regions of my brain as my experience and learning connect all of these statements with the subject of the first statement - Ego. As I work with client organisations, I often find that using language and examples they might be familiar with can help to illustrate points. So let's try this with the utterance of absolute statements. We all know the story of the little wooden doll who becomes a real life boy and who's nose grows every time he tells a fib. Think about it like this. Using this analogy the little wooden doll boy is the absolute statement. The behaviour which runs contrary to the absolute statement is the magic which makes the nose grow and our own understanding of language in context and what absolute statements mean, is our ability to see and understand what the nose growing actually means. So absolute statements like the ones above can awaken our inbuilt threat detection system (our limbic lobe; our amygdala) and prime our system to be on guard. We can perceive the binary nature of the statement and can be primed by experience and learning to question why the statement was made and what lies behind it. How productive might all of this be when we want to build trust and collaboration with others? My suggestion is that having created an expectation of absolute outcomes, particularly if those outcomes are as preposterous and contrary to the norms of human behaviour as the ones I've outlined above, this can be enormously counter-productive. What we're really taking about here is trust. Trust is after all the thing that helps to reduce barriers, create connections and defuse any potential psychological defensiveness. But trust is a fragile commodity and has a definite neuro-chemical and psychological aspect. If we don't recognise and manage this effectively, the result can be increased psychological defensiveness; diminished trust, silo functioning and reduced team productivity. You might be thinking that all of this is very interesting from a personal perspective, but what has it got to do with the world of work and organisations. Well the giveaway was the centrality of trust, with what it means in terms of performance within teams. This is why an understanding of what the team and corporate values we espouse actually mean, is so vital. If this is not properly articulated, explored and agreed; then it can be easy for the words (the values) and the pictures (the behaviours) not to match. And our brains are as capable of identifying and honing in on such inconsistency as they are of picking up the inflexible and absolute nature of statements we hear. In an organisational setting, values may not be such rigid, absolute, binary statements but rather principles that we attempt to hold ourselves too; accepting, as is normal, that we may make mistakes but having the self awareness to understand when this has happened and holding ourselves and each accountable to these standards, with all that this means for management of internal drivers of behaviour, survival responses and unsurprisingly managing ego. So it's a really simple, easy and straightforward task then. Actually it's not it's a difficult and challenging skill that we need to deploy on an ongoing basis, and one key step to building and deploying this skill is checking in our absolute thoughts, and our ego, at the door.